HOW TO KNOW IF HE TRULY CARES ABOUT YOU-COUPLE COUNSELING ADVICE

The man, unfortunately, has been conditioned since they were little boys to not really express our feelings.  You know what gets rewarded is toughness.  What gets rewarded is stoicism is not being very verbose and effuse in how you are expressing your feelings. So if that's been conditioned into your man or you are dating a guy who isn't really expressive especially with what he's feeling.  It can be confusing to understand how he feels and where he's at.

But there's something that speaks louder than words which are actions.

So today I will share with you six things that he does that shows he genuinely cares about you.  Check it out.
I love this topic of couple advice because I truly believe that when our words and actions are in alignment.  That's when we are in integrity. That’s the successful long-lasting love relationship.

 1- HE FOLLOWS THROUGH WITH HIS AGREEMENTS.

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So the number one thing that he (boyfriend or husband) does that shows he genuinely cares about you is he follows through with his agreements.  He keeps his agreements.  This is him calling when he says he is going to call coming home and he says is going to come home or if he has made an agreement with you and he can't keep it.  He will text you or communicate “hey I'm running late, or I can't be there”

Following through on your agreements is a primary demonstration of care and love. 

2- HE (BOYFRIEND OR HUSBAND) REMEMBERS THE LITTLE THINGS. 

Number 2 is he remembers the little things.  So he is paying attention to what you're saying .because he knows that inside of what you're saying are opportunities to give to you and to care for you.

For an example he might show one day and give you some candy and you are like candy what this is about? and he says remember a few weeks ago Your were sharing about how as a kid you loved candy.it was your favorite candy .but you hadn’t had it for a few decades, I thought I'd bring you some candy.

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Those types of moves or you have a project coming up or a big meeting or a big presentation and so he texts you that morning and just wishes you good luck.  Or he remembers that you're out shopping for your mom's birthday and your mom's birthday rolls around.  And his texts you and he says hey just wish your mom happy birthday for me. Those types of remembering those kinds of details are a great sign of caring. 

3- HE (BOYFRIEND OR HUSBAND)  TRIES TO PROTECT YOU FROM PAIN

Number three is he tries to protect you from pain. every man is hardwired to protect his woman from pain even if this is putting a jacket around you when you're cold or pulling out the chair to make it easier for you and more comfortable for you to sit down, opening the car door demonstrations of trying to ease your experience.  I was in my hometown a few years ago with my father, my mother lobby on this big family trip and my mother loves a bit older, gets out of the pool and she is a walk so fast and so she's walking along that pool deck to the chair to grab one of her drinks and to come back and my father notices that pool deck is hot so he's in the pool and he starts splashing the pool deck in front of his wife as she walks over to her chair.  The couple other women notice what he's doing and he splashes the water on the way back to make it cool for her so she doesn't burn her feet walking the chair and back .when my mom gets back into the pool. These other women are like “oh my gosh that was the most the loving, kind, caring thing I've ever seen in my life”.

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 There were beside themselves with how much they were impressed with my dad .he was trying to protect her from that painful experience .side note by the ways is why childbirth is just so agonizing for men emotionally. Because yes you as a woman.  If you ever gave birth you're going through this in tremendous pain .so men as a husband everything he  wants to do to be able to take that pain away from her to alleviate the suffering.  But there’s nothing he can do.  She's got to go through it all men can do is be a source of support for her at that moment, but with every ounce of his fiber he wanted to take that pain for her and that’s how man is hardwired.

So if you notice your man tried to alleviate pain from your make things more comfortable for you.  Notice that that's a good sign. 

Now you may have a man who's demonstrating some of these things already in your life or you may be the person where you want to attract that person.  If you want to attract this kind of man in your life.  One who demonstrates love and care? 

The first thing you need to do is shift the belief system.

Because our beliefs govern what we are creating in our lives.  And so I have a gift to help you do that because these articles aren't just about the advice they are re about action to help you expand the love you're experiencing in your life and so this is an affirmation challenge.  I challenge you to take this.  You’re infusing these positive beliefs in your mind, rewiring the negative beliefs, empowering yourself positive love abundant belief so that you can attract this kind of man into your life faster.

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4- HE’LL (BOYFRIEND OR HUSBAND) CONFIDE IN YOU. 

Number four is he'll confide in you.  So if he doesn't express his feelings very open .you will notice though he'll share the stuff that's going on the challenges he's having .maybe he is having a challenge at work or maybe he has been in a conflict with a friend. And he is telling you about it because he wants to get your perspective. He values you. He values your opinion and so he'll confide in you and want to get your perspective on that.  That's a great sign that he values the relationship with you.

5- HE'LL (BOYFRIEND OR HUSBAND) GET DEFENSIVE. 

 Number five, and this is a strange one.  You might disagree with this one, so I'd be interested to hear your thoughts about this, but I believe this number five is he'll get defensive.  And here's why this is a sign that he cares about you .because the war sign in a relationship, they don't care is apathy.  They've given up. You complain about something or you want to change something or bring something up and they are like I don't care whatever leave.

That whatever that I don't care.  The person who stops fighting.  That's a very dangerous sign in a relationship because that means they're done they are over, they could care less about whether they're in the relationship or not.

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But the man who's getting defensive.  What is that .that is his ego afraid that if he's wrong, you will leave him or you won’t love him or you'll end the relationship so that you go says fight for your position.  You can't be wrong on this because if you're wrong she'll leave you.  You need to be right. Now it isn't necessarily a productive strategy to get defensive, but nowhere is it coming from.

 So if he gets defensive if he starts a will know I wasn't wrong because of this, and I was wrong  Because of that .little bell go off in the back of your head that says this is a good thing because he's invested in this relationship.  He wants to keep this relationship because he loves me. So let that bell go off and it will help you DE charge that moment in the relationships. So the two of you can work through that and come back to love.

6- HE GENUINELY LISTENS TO YOU

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Lastly number six.  He genuinely listens to you.so this is him asking about your day .this is him wanting to know about you .now, bonus points, if he listens in the middle of a fight where he can step away from the evil part of him .and actually say well tell me about your side. I want to hear about your experience and he can validate your experience, validate what your feelings are in that moment, but listening and there's a lot of research on this. 

It shows listening is the number one way that people feel loved.

SO NOW MY QUESTION FOR YOU IS

What do you do that shows you really care about a man?

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