7 THINGS MEN SECRETLY WANT BUT DON'T ASK FOR-RELATIONSHIP ADVICE

Occasionally the man in your life will want something that he doesn't articulate.  He doesn't share and it’s either because he doesn't know how to ask for the thing or he's too embarrassed to ask for that thing.  Either way, when that goes unsaid, you have no idea what he may desire in the relationship.

 So today I'm going to share with you seven things that men want, but don't ask for in a relationship. 

Number one is he wants you to be happy. 

Now how does a guy ask for this? “Be happy.  Please” “be happy damn it” no it’s pretty awkward and very ineffective, right .but the problem is your happiness.  You see, is a reflection of his effectiveness as a man in the relationship.  After interviewing hundreds of couples who been married over 40 years.  Often the men would say “hey look if mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.  Your happiness is tied to their sense of worth as a man, so they want you to be happy.  So if you're not happy, don't be surprised if your man starts to get restless and he's either going to try to fix the thing that you're unhappy about, or he's going to avoid until you become happy.  

Your happiness is key to his happiness.

Number two is he wants you to take interest in his interests.  

Men love it when you become passionate about what he's passionate about whether that's his favorite sports team or whether that's a hobby that he loves like RC planes or racing or whether that's a job that he's passionate about. When you start to show interest in those things it builds a bond and a connection between the two of you .men rarely ask for this.

A buddy of mine was telling me a story about how he is an avid football fan and he loves the Steelers .he called his long-distance girlfriend One Sunday just too kinda check in with her. He say, hey, what are you doing? She goes, what you mean, what am I doing. I'm getting ready for the Steeler game.  Then she started talking about the game and what was coming up and he's telling me he's like I couldn't believe she was actually getting ready for the game.  I felt my heart connect to her. I totally melted because she's passionate about something that I'm passionate about.  Because here's the deal. 

When you connect to something that he loves. The love that he has for that thing now connects to you. 

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Number three is he wants you to initiate this se_x. 

go ahead and be bold, surprising him. Come out of the bathroom in that outfit, Maybe that outfit you haven’t put on in a while.

He wants you to be the one initiating se_x .unless however you are the sex machine in the relationship and you're doing all the initiating, in which case give the man a breather.

Number four is your man wants to be praised and acknowledged

and yet no man will ask or rarely ask for this. yet it's what we crave the most is that praise and acknowledgment to know , that we’re doing a good job as your man .so it can be something as simple as just a favor that he does for you and you say

Hey babe, thank you so much for bringing the food home today.  I really appreciate that. 

Or you can praise him for an everyday common experience like him giving you a hug.  So the next time he gives you a hug whisper in his ear and say, babe did you know, you give me best hug in the world .you will see him expand.  You will see him literally like feel better about himself. Because we member this man's sense of self expands under the light of your praise. 

Number five is he wants you to encourage him to adventure.  

Now men are often conditioned to believe that women want way more time together then man want .you and I both know that that's not true.  You want your independence just as much as he does.  You want your time or time as the girlfriend just as much as he does.

But men were often conditioned to believe that if we ask for time away than, you are going to get your feelings hurt or that’s going to be seen as a bad thing.  So when you actually encourage him to go adventure in his life. To go get some guy time, to go do something that he loves.  He is going to love that.

she could simply say hey babe I got Sunday brunch with my friends this Sunday ,why don’t you go and create a boys day ?and he is going to love that .that type of freedom actually crates a desire to invest more time with you. 

Number six is he wants your confidence in him .

This is very difficult to ask for. But it’s obvious when he doesn't get it, but is also very easy to show your confidence in him.  Here’s how works confidence in him is as simple as giving him a task and then letting him complete the task for you. But oftentimes what will happen is there will be the type of woman who says, “hey would you take me on a date, would you drive me let's go to this restaurant “and then while they're driving there.  She's telling him the best way to go and she's instructing him on where to park. Or she says hey honey, would you wash the dishes and as he's washing the dishes and putting them in this washer. She correcting him and say no the glass goes here addition that way and she's micromanaging the situation.  When that happens, he feels that you don't trust him to actually provide for you.

But allowing him to accomplish the task.  Actually, sitting back and letting him serve you shows that you have faith in his abilities.

Showing faith in his abilities is showing faith in the man himself

Number seven your man has a deep desire for respect. 

Now in most successful marriages, respect was the number one principle that all these couples talked about.  Respect can also be a little bit ambiguous. How do we know that we are respecting each other? respect shows up in the little things .it shows up in the way we listen to one another .shows up in the way we show up on time and keep an agreement for when we are going to meet one another .it shows up in the way we honor each other's differences and make it okay that we don't have to like the same things or have the same opinions all the time .and it shows up in how we are courteous to one another and saying please and thank you for things.

But simply the fact of appreciating little things shows respect. 

 It shows appreciation and it makes a big deal and it goes a long way though.  So think about what are the ways that you can show respect to your man cause this is the big thing that he wants that he will probably never ask for. 

So there you have it.  Seven things that men want, but don't ask for as a way for you to build a stronger connection with your man. 

I got a question for you.  Now what do you want in the relationship that you rarely ask for go-ahead poster, and the comments section below and if you're just getting introduced to this channel.  Take a moment and get subscribed because I think you are going to love what you find.  This blog is dedicated to supporting you in all aspects of your relationship and helping you expand love in your life and create that amazing relationship that you love .thank you so much for reading and I'll see you soon